Mother's Day Blahs

To me the two hardest holidays for a woman who is experiencing infertility or pregnancy loss, or waiting to adopt are Christmas and Mother's Day. It seems at these holidays everything is about babies, children and family and Mother's Day deals a double-dose of the reality blahs. Let's be honest, these two holidays are reminders of a life that feels unattainable-the life of motherhood.


Okay...we've said our feelings out loud, felt sorry for ourselves and even felt guilty for the feelings we are experiencing yet our situation hasn't changed. What is next? ...Oh yeah, let's get angry about our situation. This is the emotional roller coaster we don't need to take! This road only leads to the blah's and you need to make an emergency exit before crashing completely. However you do have a choice to make once you've decided to get off the road to no-where-ville and that is, do I take a left or a right turn. A left turn it leads to bitterness, a right turn leads to Jesus. Which way will you turn?

You know what I'm talking about because you've met these two different types of people. Those who decided to take a left turn, walk around as if they are "bitter." Either the world or their family or God has just done them wrong. They choose to never get over it because everyday they wake up, think about their day, feel their saddness and carry their bitterness with them for all to feel and see. These people are miserable to themeselves and others around them.

OR...
You can take a right turn. This turn leads to Jesus. The person that chose to make a right turn instead wakes up everyday and thinks about their day, too. But they differ because when they feel their sadness they also give up their saddness. Apostle Paul writes,"I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well feed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do everything through him who gives me strength." In this verse Phillipians 4:12, Paul describes the secret to feeling content and that is only through Christ Jesus giving you strength. This means turning your pain, sorrows and bitterness over to God and asking for Him to give you strength to make it through your day. What you allow to occupy your thoughts will sooner or later determine your attitude. So let your thoughts lead to things that are not of self-pity and grife but instead thankfulness in everything-even hard times.